When people go to the doctor and are given a prescription, a third of them do not buy the drugs in that prescription, a third buy them, but do not take them as prescribed, and only a third take the drugs properly. Instead, when they go to the vet with their pet, 80% of people give them the medication as prescribed. Why don’t people value their health and well-being even as much as they value their pets’? Why do they neglect their own person and put any other person or even pet above them? Because humans, unlike animals, are self-aware. Only people have the consciousness of good and evil, and, consciously or unconsciously, they perceive the evil in them, and neglecting they punish themselves for it. We have good and evil in us, it’s a given, we are not just beings of light. We should accept and live our lives accordingly. When we accept the evil in ourselves, we will accept the evil in others and we will no longer be so intolerant. When we become aware of the evil within us, we will love ourselves enough to care for and carve our own path, without hiding behind the “goodness” we display in front of others. When we embrace the darkness we will be able to see the light.
You are not good people when you say “yes”, although your inside shouts “no”, but you are weak and self-deprecated people. You don’t even value yourself enough to acknowledge your priorities.
You are not a good person when you let others constantly moan at you or gossip their venom. You do not value yourself in order to keep your energy whole and undefiled.
You are not a good person when you do for others what they can do on their own. You make of them profiteers and helpless, and of you an inferior person.
You are not a good person when you cannot say “no” to those you consider superior, because you will pour the accumulated frustration on the inferior ones or it will eat you from the inside and you will get sick.
Jordan Peterson in his book “12 Rules of Life” says that by feeding on resentment and turning resentment into the fiercest of desires, man truly becomes a monster. And resentments arise from our impotence, from maintaining the appearance of a good man, from the inability to refuse someone or to refuse an action that harms us. “You have a responsibility to help yourself; behave as such”.
Let’s learn to say “no” firmly, but also with respect. We may lose some relationships, but we will make room for others, more fulfilling and full of love and truth.